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A Peaceful Passing

2012-01-28T20:37:00.005-06:00

Peacefully, at 10:20am on Saturday morning, our beloved husband, Dad, Pake (grandfather) and brother went to be with his Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

Cancer took his earthly life, but his spirit is victorious in death. In Romans 8, we are given assurance that "in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." (verses 37-39)

We are grateful to God for sustaining Mom and Dad through these final days with your prayers and support.

A memorial service will be held at Transcona Christian Reformed Church, 131 Victoria Avenue W., on Tuesday January 31 at 2:00pm.

Thursday January 26

2012-01-25T22:41:00.005-06:00

Sue and I arrived in Winnipeg from BC on Tuesday. Given that it was only three weeks ago that we left here, it was difficult to conceive just how much things could change until we saw our Dad.

Dad is mostly uncommunicative now, although able to respond to some questions and whisper a few requests. He is confined to his bed and requires assistance to change position or ingest medications. Liquids can be given only a few drops at a time. He is jaundiced, and is no longer eating. He shows signs of discomfort from time to time, but thankfully, his pain seems to be well managed overall.

Dad is usually able to open his eyes for a few seconds when prompted and appears to recognize visitors, although less so each day. He knows we are near, but is mostly sleeping now. Together, all these signs indicate that the body is in the process of shutting down.

We the family are comforted by the outpouring of love and the assurance that Dad, Mom, and the rest of us are being lifted up in your prayers.

Update: January 22/2012

2012-01-22T22:02:00.010-06:00

To say that it has been a while since we, and I in particular, have updated this blog is an understatement. As my Dad said in an earlier post, there is nothing good about cancer, and writing about it even less. However, the time has come to let you know that – all hoping and praying to the contrary – Dad’s condition is deteriorating rapidly.

As many of you know, chemotherapy was discontinued in September after it was evident that the cancer was still advancing and all treatment options had been exhausted. Shortly thereafter, Dad’s blood sugar levels became elevated and he had been administering daily injections of insulin, but those too have now been suspended. Dad is taking in little food, so there is no longer any need for it.

Our family was blessed to be able to spend a week together in Winnipeg between Christmas and New Year’s. Dad was able to join us downstairs at times, although weak and having little appetite for all the usual Christmas fare. We all took turns lying with him, talking, reading a story, praying together, or just holding hands. One night we watched a movie, but mostly Dad spent his time in bed. Throughout the years, Dad had been the one to get the candles and the Christmas music going, and deep fry the “oliebollen” for New Year’s Eve. Sadly this year, it was not so.

The last while consisted of a rigorous schedule of taking many medications at set intervals. There were many times when Dad would have rather stayed right where he was, warm in his bed, but willed himself to get up for yet another pill or injection. However, the past week has witnessed a significant decline in his ability to do so. Dad is eating less, if anything, and his muscles continue to weaken. He is prone to falls.

As of this past Friday, a hospital bed has been brought to the home, and in addition to being faithfully cared for by Mom, he now also receives daily attention from a marvelous team of palliative care nurses and doctors. Dad was greatly encouraged when his sister Lydia and brother-in-law Murray arrived this past Wednesday from Princeton, BC. They are a tremendous support to both Mom and Dad at this very difficult time.

Over the past weeks doctors, nurses, friends and relatives have been coming to visit Dad and provide support as well as respite when Mom has had to leave the home. There are too many to list from memory and I fear that I will conspicuously leave someone out, however everyday I’m told of relatives, church family, friends, and neighbours coming to shovel snow, bring food, and otherwise provide an array of support to Mom and Dad. To each and every one of you, thank you and God bless you.

It is times like these when one seriously rethinks having ever put distance between themselves and the ones dearest to them. I try to speak with Dad daily, and when I do, I find myself asking awkward questions like “How are you?” and, “How is it today?”

Over Christmas, at times privately and one evening with all the adults gathered together, we were provided opportunities to have some very meaningful exchanges. Many have said they are praying for peace, and I can tell you there is peace amidst the sadness. The other day I asked the question that was most pressing on me. I asked Dad if he felt God’s presence. “At times, yes” he said, “and then it’s wonderful – but other times not so much.” While Dad knows where his eternal home is, I can only imagine that despite being surrounded by loved ones and caregivers twenty-four seven, he must still feel at times very alone.

When we started this blog, we said that it was our intent to keep you informed and to let you know how and when your prayers were needed. We know you are praying now. We ask that you will continue to pray for peace, for the alleviation of pain, for strength, faith, and yes, even for healing. But we ask that, as His will unfolds, you will pray that for both Mom and Dad, God’s presence would be very near.

Asking for prayer

2011-01-30T00:36:00.000-06:00

Pat wrote the following in an email to our praying friends on Jan. 15, 2011. I am pasting it here for those who may not be on her list. It also saves me some time. My edited comments show within [square brackets].

Hi Family and dear friends!!

Just to let you know and to ask for prayer!

Yesterday aft [Fri. Jan 14/11]., Ken had his [thirteenth] CT scan. Then off we went to fill precription for that Sinus infection I have [we also filled up at the Royal Fork! :)]. We get home, and Ken's Oncologist calls, they see from the scan, that there's a blood clot on one of his lungs, and how fast can we make it down to Cancer Care, to get an injection, to thin his blood. Whoa!! That gives one a punch in the gut. He'll have to go every day for awhile for these injections, It will thin his blood and The Clot should break away. The rest of the news from the CT scan, we will hear next Thursday, when Ken gets Blood work done, and then we meet with the Doctor. If this new Chemo isn't working anymore, they will Stop! Then they will try some kind of drug, which some seem to be able to handle, while others are apparently miserable with it.

We, especially Ken, stand firm on God's promises.!
Love, Pat

[On Fri. January 21, 2011, Pat made the following email update.]

Hi Family and dear Friends!
Just a wee update on Ken.

Thursday, Jan.19th, was quite a day!
The night before Ken was very quiet,and we were both apprehensive of what we would have to deal with .
He received his 7th [Dalteparin anticoagulant] injection Thursday morning, had blood work done. Then the appt. with Dr Czakowsky.

Dr. said the clot was of enough significance to have caused instant death. ...Whoa!!

Abdomen scan showed no change, so,.. stable. scan of lungs showed some growth, but not enough to even have measured it.... Whew!!

When we arrived home, the pharmacist called to tell Ken that the injections have been cancelled, and no Warfarin at night either.

Ken's INR is too high. 3.9 [Pharmacists try to keep within a range of 2.2 to 2.8 - that's why they are continually taking blood samples and adjusting the amount of medication]

I must say although we hate Ken getting Chemo, it sure was a relief, that they didn't say they would stop because it wasn't working anymore. [I must say that continuing to take chemo treatments may make it appear we trust more in the doctors and their tools instead of believing God for healing - however I believe God will let me know specifically when to stop - sofar it appears He has been using the treatments. Read the verse at the very centre of the Bible: Psalm 118:8]
He [Ken]'s been warned to be careful , so as Not to bleed, and to watch out now for any bruising.

Well today Ken got his 39th Chemo treatment.and his INR was down to 2.8 . They'll be keeping close watch over Ken. We are so very thankful to God! He is in control!

God's timing is perfect!

Again we thank you so much for your prayers, for your concern and caring! Love, Pat

Finally an update. Phew!

2010-10-18T00:07:00.001-05:00

(I wrote the following in late July or early August, before we went to BC for a three week vacation. More on our experiences a bit later. KenM)

It's been a while since we last updated this blog. Julia has taken a break from it, so it's pretty much up to me now to keep you informed.

From the counter on the webpage, I can tell that some of you have been monitoring this blog continuously while we were away from it. I am touched by that and greatly respect your stick-to-it-iveness. You deserve to hear from me.

To be perfectly honest with you, often I don't feel much like maintaining the blog, because I don't like reading or writing about cancer. That does not mean that I am not realistic about cancer, and the way it affects my life. It simply means I don't like to deal with it anymore that is absolutely necessary. Besides, I don't like to scare myself half to death by reading other people's stories.

I also avoid saying things like: "I have cancer". Instead, I say that I have been diagnosed with it. I just don't like giving it any more status or respect than it deserves, because frankly, I despise cancer. It's a gift from the devil and it causes a lot of turmoil in people’s lives.

So, what's been going on since my last reported chemo #14?

Well, I have had 31 chemos so far. After chemo #12, the doctor reduced the doses for the various types of chemo by 20% (except the Avastin/bevacizumab - this is a smart bomb) and the frequency was changed from every two weeks to every three weeks. This was done to balance the quality of life vs. the quantity of life issue, because I began experiencing some less desirable side effects, particularly nausea and vomiting. I learned a few weeks ago from the nurse that this frequency is a bit unusual.

In addition, I am getting a CT scan every 8 weeks to check on my condition. So far, I have had 10 CT scans. I learned from the CBC National TV news the other day that the radiation for a chest CT scan is about 100 times that of a normal chest x-ray. I am getting usually a chest scan and an abdominal scan. So, you can do the math. But again, it is a trade-off because the doctors need to know what is going on with a potentially life threatening disease. I am trusting that the Lord will protect me from any harmful effects.

On the whole, I feel well, except when the chemo is doing its work. Days 5, 6 and 7 after the treatment are still the worst to deal with. But, on the whole: it's do-able. And by day 8 I feel much better and am ready to do some work in the garage, mow the lawn, etc. Do I have any discomfort? YES, but not as I expected. I have no pain. Mostly, it seems as if gravity has increased. Everything appears a bit harder to do. And, it's hard to tell why. Cancer, chemo, aging; a combination of all three, perhaps? I have no handle on what contributes most.

I continue to do weekly bookkeeping work for The Carver's Knife. Being able to do some work that I enjoy keeps me focused on maintaining a useful and interesting life and it also helps me to focus on getting healed. And I like getting a pay cheque. :)

Getting healed is an entirely different topic, of course. Although the doctor has not changed his prognosis, which is "there is no cure", he remains cautiously optimistic that I have still some more time left. When I suggested after last New Year's that I was shooting for next New Year (2011), he granted that I might possibly make it, cautioning me that "there are no guarantees". I am not looking for guarantees. Nobody gets guarantees. But I think the doctor is very happy with the results so far, and even admits that it has all been quite amazing. I also have an outstanding invitation to go fishing with the BC surgeon who originally operated on me in October of 2008.

It's my goal to see him this fall when we visit our girls and their families in BC this September.

I too am amazed. But I give the glory entirely to Jesus. God uses the doctors and the medicines, but ultimately He is Jehovah-Rapha (the Physician - see Ex. 15:26)
The Bible is some amazing book. Actually, the more I get into it, the more I realize that the promises the Bible contains are simply outrageous! There is a lot of fascinating stuff. I heard someone mention that some 1500 verses/promises are directly related to healing the sick. Not to be ignored!
People ignore the Bible at their own risk/expense. I know, it's not always fun reading, some of it is even boring, although many of the stories are as good as any.

And it certainly is Good News. Jesus died for my sins and His body was broken for my healing (Isa. 53:5, Psalm 103:3). Too bad, that often only bad news is being emphasized.

I also wish to thank all those who continue to steadfastly pray for my complete healing.

KenM
PS Tomorrow, (Oct-18) chemo #35. Brrr!

September update

2009-09-13T05:18:00.002-05:00

It's been a while, again, since I posted to this blog. To tell the truth, I'm having a bit of a hard time thinking about this blog these days, or should I say thinking about my Dad these days.

Questions about my Dad's health do not have answers right now. He's not been feeling well. Not too long ago, Dad cut down the number of chemo treatments he was having to one every three weeks, instead of one every two - providing for more 'feeling good' time in between treatments.

As for the scan Dad had recently, the results show that the cancer is stable. In other words, it is not growing, but it is not shrinking anymore either.

Good news is Dad has regrown his hair and was looking very healthy during our recent visit to Winnipeg. I guess that was over a month ago. How time flies.

Dad also celebrated his 67th birthday on August the 20th. I was looking for something really, really special but apparently I ended up getting him a Costco membership. Our family has a weird reciprocal gift-giving 'problem' whereby we send money back and forth to each other (or gift cards) for birthdays. This year we said lets skip the sending part and you just go buy yourself something you want, or in this case need, and that happened to be a Costco membership renewal.

I'm hoping that I'll come up with something better for their up-and-coming 45th Wedding Anniversary. Mom and Dad reach this important milestone on September 26th. Can't wait to see them both and celebrate this special occasion with them.

Some days I'm sort of feeling, in regard to this blog, as if there is a proverbial elephant in the living room. It's difficult to understand what is happening, and specifically with our prayers. I've heard many different opinions on what "healing" really means, but I think that for me, it's a simple matter of Dad getting better.

Latest CT Scan and Chemo #14

2009-06-24T16:57:00.001-05:00

Hello again to those of you who are still checking in, despite our not having updated the blog in nearly 3 months! A number of people have asked about the blog, and it's encouraging to know that many are following Dad's progress and upholding the family in prayer. But it really has been a long time, and there are a few reasons for that. Dad explains:

First, when the chemo treatments go on as they have been, one settles into some sort of routine. The sessions are the same and the side effects are much the same, so there is very little different information to convey than what already has been stated once or twice before. Secondly, we [Mom and Dad] have spent time away from Winnipeg. As a matter of fact, we spent nearly three weeks in Victoria. But, I am not in the habit of advertising on the Internet that we will be away from home. We had a great time visiting and spending quality time with both Suzie, Julia, and their families. I had a few "off" days because we left immediately after my 11th treatment, but the rest of the days were great. I even got a bit of wood carving in.

Dad continues:

The latest scan results from May 19th are encouraging again. With respect to the chest scan, the conclusions are that residual tiny lung nodules are stable. The right upper lobe lesion has again improved and two other sites are stable. No new lesions were identified.

With respect to the abdomen and pelvis scan, the conclusions are that one of the liver lesions (originally the largest one) has again decreased slightly in size (1 or 2 mm), while the other sites on the liver and the pancreas are stable. No new abnormalities were identified.

What does this all mean? Well, I [Ken] personally take this as a positive result even though no dramatic improvements have occurred from these 5 additional treatments. The doctor also seems pleased and says that things are progressing as they had planned. He did expect a considerable improvement from the first few treatments and then a stabilizing effect after that.

This provides me with a somewhat disturbing view because the doctor did not change his original prognosis. He is very careful with what he says and he makes no off the cuff promises. In other words, I seem to be tracking along the planned course. Naturally, I am NOT satisfied with this state of affairs because the doctor’s end result of the prognosis has a negative outcome for me. He does not expect to see a cure but rather an extension of life as a result of the chemos. When they don’t work any longer then there is a plan B and even a plan C. The doctor cautioned me that I am not out of the woods yet and he’d perhaps be talking somewhat more positively some two years down the road, if, by his reckoning, I survive that far.

And then there is plan J for Jesus. This is the plan I am following. I purchased The Healing Bible and some other healing related books. The Healing Bible is my touch point, just as the hem of Jesus’ coat was the touch point for the lady with the issue of blood. She said: "If I just touch his clothes, I will be healed." Mark 5:28 NIV

I don’t believe that the Healing Bible has any special powers; it just makes it easier to find all the healing related verses because they are exclusively highlighted. And since it is good to have a touch point, it is as good as any in my humble opinion.

I ignore people’s objections and reservations. I just read my Healing Bible and say: “Yes Lord, I believe what you say. Please don’t wait too long to make your promises come to pass because this path I am walking is hard and it is made harder by the fact that I don’t yet understand what your goal or purpose is in all of this. ”

Jesus remains our Healer. He said in Mark 11:24, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”

The connection between healing and forgiveness is made often because the salvation package designed by God is complete – healing of spirit, mind and body. It is designed to be a complete reversal of the results of sin, except for death, so we can come confidently expecting God to meet us at our point of need, no matter where that point is for any one of us, whether it is spiritual, mental or physical.

Finally, I am deeply saddened by Gerald’s passing and yet I believe he is entirely better now. I did not attend the funeral in person. I have an audio tape of the funeral. I try as much as possible to avoid large crowds in confined spaces while my immune system is compromised. With the current H1N1 situation, my doctor heartily agrees.

We learned that Johnny G., a brother of our neighbour across the street, also died of cancer this past week. He was only 56 years old. Our hearts go out to his family.

Please keep praying for Hank B. and others you know about. I have been praying for other people as well. We meet more and more people at Cancer Care and there are so many of them, Christians included. We met a lady today who already had 34 chemo treatments. Her case is similar to mine. She must be tough.

Finally, both Pat and I very much appreciate the prayers and cards and well wishes from so many people. We are touched – that’s when you find out we are loved by many people. Thank you all!!!!

CT scan results and Chemo #9

2009-03-28T19:09:00.000-05:00

Here is the latest update I received from Dad:

I had my 3rd CT scan on March 16. The abdominal scan results again showed improvement when compared with the January 12th scan. The doctor’s impression was that there had been slight improvement to the liver and the soft tissue in the region of the pancreatic head. There remains a persistent obstruction elsewhere. So, not as dramatic as the previous scan but improvement nevertheless. PTL. I’ll talk a little later about how we may try to get some more improvements.

The doctors did also a chest scan this time to get an idea what is happening in the lungs where they had found some lesions during the November scan. The impression there was that some of the nodes have improved since the prior study. Other smaller nodules have not significantly changed. No new lesions were identified. This is again good news, especially that nothing new was found. I just received word that my next scan is scheduled for May 12, 2009.

Chemo #9 was administered on Monday, March 23. The doctors will continue treatments as long as they work.

I really want to thank each and everyone who reads this blog and prays for Pat and I. You know that I really stand on the Bible scriptures that deal specifically with the issue of healing people.

I have been reading a book entitled: “Prayer, conversing with God” written by Rosalind Rinker (1959). The book is mostly about how to learn to have a normal, conversational tone in our prayers, without all the “church lingo”, the Thees and Thous etc. Just keep it short and simple (Matthew 6:7+8). I don’t want the blog to become too preachy, so if you’re interested in this subject, you can find my partial review of the book here:
http://kensnotepad.blogspot.com/2009/03/prayer-conversing-with-god.html

Rosalind teaches that we should keep our prayers simple, short and to the point. She also suggests that we thank God for something each time. When we ask for something, it should be something definite.

Well, we have a list of things to praise and thank God for:
No new lesions were identified in the lungs and there was some significant improvement with some of the nodules.
There was again some improvement in the lesions identified in the liver and on the pancreas.
I have relatively few side-effects from the chemo treatments.
I have good energy, excellent appetite and the ability to do some work each day.

And…, we have a list of definite things to ask for:
Ask that the larger lesion on my liver will shrink further. It has already shrunk from 6.5 x 4.4cm to 4.2 x 2.9cm to 3.4 x 2.5cm.
Ask that a smaller lesion, which has decreased to 1.8 cm, be further reduced.
Ask that the abnormal soft tissue on the pancreas be further reduced after having slightly improved since the last exam.
Ask that the persistent obstruction of the superior mesenteric vein also be removed. God can bust concrete!
Ask that a previously identified nodule in the lung (it measured 9mm x 6 mm previously and is now barely perceptible at 1mm to 2mm) be totally removed.
Ask that some nodules which have not seen any significant change may begin to improve over the next little while.
Ask that a previously noted 8mm x 9mm diameter node (which is now down to 3mm) also becomes barely perceptible or be completely removed.
Ask that the rest of my body be protected from the harmful effects of the chemo treatments. (as in Mark 16:18).
Ask that my immune system may begin to function again as intended. The B cells and T cells will kill any new cancer cells floating around.
Ask that I may steadily gain physical strength as the cancer is being removed from my body.

Thank you all for praying. Look over the list and pray over an item that you believe God will do for me.

I heard Charles Price say the following last Sunday: (Based on Romans 4) “Abraham believed God’s promise and his faith was credited to him as righteousness. Even though it did not exist at the time, [for Abraham] it was as good as though it did exist. God calls into being things that are not as though they are”. Let’s believe like Abraham.

Let’s not forget about some others we have been praying for. Ask God to steadily shrink the tumor in Gerald F. till nothing is left. Gerald also has problems with high blood sugar and the doctors were having trouble to bring it down to a satisfactory level. Let's keep asking Jesus for healing on behalf of Gerald. Also ask God to make the stem cell treatments work for Bruce M.

I am sad to learn that Louise S. has passed away. She has left her earthly tent behind and we believe she now lives in a building from God not made by human hands (2 Cor. 5:1-7). Ask God for peace and grace and acceptance of this loss for the S. family.

Also, young Tyson V. will be undergoing an operation soon to remove the tumor in his chest. Let’s ask God to also make that operation a success.
I also like to add Joshua W. from Somerset MB. He will be undergoing treatment with stem cells. Let's ask our heavenly Father to also make that treatment a success for Joshua.

Each cancer patient is so much in need of God's involvement because cancer is a disease that functions at the cell level. It is a very difficult disease to beat. Most of the chemo treatments seem much like carpet bombing with it indiscriminate side effects. Genetic scientists are beginning to have a serious understanding of cell complexity and, as a result, are able to design treatments that will target specific cancer cells. That is a much needed improvement in the treatment of this disease.

Since God designed cell structure, it's operation and behaviour, we have no choice but to ask Him to help us in the fight to defeat this disease. And God says He is willing to help. Jesus tells us to simply ask. Logic tells me He wouldn't tell us to ask if He was unwilling to help.

If your interested in knowing more about the simply fascinating story of cell design listen to these podcasts by Dr. Fazale Rana:

http://reasons.edgeboss.net/download/reasons/cellsdesign/podcast.xml

Ken M.

Hello Again

2009-03-10T20:36:00.000-05:00

Dad sent the following update to me a few days ago. The past couple of
months have indeed flown by, and we're so grateful that God has continued to
uphold Dad and Mom through His grace, and through the very real love and support of others. Dad explains:

It's been a while since I last wrote. It's amazing how fast time goes!

Since my last update, I have had three additional chemo treatments. After a while, you get into a routine and, if there's nothing unusual to report, there is very little reason to broadcast it to the world.

Besides, I have been very busy. I finished the year-end accounting for the church. After that, it was preparation of the financial statements which are ready for presentation during the March General meeting. All this, while the show goes on in January and then into February. I was trying to catch up and keep up. I am also maintaining another set of bookkeeping records for a local business.

I received Chemo 5 on January 26th (Mon). I felt very good that day. Herman came around in the evening. He and I always have a good time talking about all sorts of things, but mostly we discuss our faith (we have a favourite topic: healing) and also we talk about how to do various things with the computer. I had a near sleepless night and the next day I was wired all day from the steroids.

The following Thursday I went to Gerald Folkerts' Art Show. It was very good to see him there, for him to be able to make a little speech and being in good spirits.

On opening night, there were wall-to-wall people in the gallery and I wasted no time picking up some nasty little virus, the effects of which still have not worn off entirely until this day. In retrospect, going was not the smartest thing to do, but I really wanted to be there for support.

Mom and I always shared our desktop computer. Often, it was a bit of a problem, because I needed (or wanted) to get some work done during the evening while Mom wanted to do her stuff. So, to resolve the conflict, I decided to buy her a nice Dell laptop. After we had a wireless connection, there was no looking back. She is as happy as a lark (as am I!).

Chemo 6 was administered on February 9. We had mentioned to the doctor that I was so wired after each treatment, so he reduced the Dexamethasone dose by half before the treatment as well as the two days after the treatment. It helped considerably. I was able to sleep better and was not nearly as wired as I was during the first few days of previous treatments.

I think the side effects of Chemo 6 were as unremarkable as ever. Most of my trouble is with a sore, crusty and bloody nose. During the particularly "active" days (5, 6+7), I feel a lot of action in the URQ (upper right quarter-liver area). It also spreads to the middle/pancreas area. Often, I feel action in my tonsils and/or armpits and even one of my teeth. The doctor finds that unusual and says that I must be tuned into my body more so than most people. I attribute it to the Power of God doing Mighty Works in my body. It's the same power that resurrected Jesus from the grave. So, you know what it is capable of.

On Sunday night (Day7), I began experiencing a tooth ache. Because it was a provincial holiday on Monday, I went to the dentist on Tuesday to get his take on removing the offending tooth. He took a look at my then latest lab report of my blood work and refused do anything until I had new results. He felt that my immune system was too low and he was worried that an extraction might cause an infection. I consulted with my oncology doctor, and he concurred. So, I asked God to keep my tooth quiet for a while. I have had no pain since, except a tiny reminder hint every so often. I don't want it to turn into an abscess, so the reminder is good.

Herman came to visit me once again. I really appreciate him giving of his own time to spend time with me. And we have GOOD talks. He really helps me build up my faith and helps with clarifying some mystery I may be contemplating.

I received Chemo 7 on Feb 23. I thought I noticed that the effects of Chemo 6 took a day or so longer to disperse. I was beginning to get curious whether the treatments actually have a cumulative effect. This would not surprise me. The treatments consist of nasty stuff, if you go by the documentation contained in my little HazMat bag. This consists of a bunch of materials and instructions to use if I should accidentally spill the contents of the pump which I wear for a few days after each treatment.

Actually, I think I noticed a cumulative effect during Chemo 7 as well. Even by Day 11, which is my regular day to have my blood work done in preparation for the next treatment, I was still a bit "woozy". It's hard to describe what it feels like. It feels a bit like walking on the deck of a ship which is in motion from the waves - you don't feel entirely rock steady.

At the time of this writing, it is Day 13 of Chemo 7, and I feel very good. Lots of energy and a healthy appetite. I even gained weight! I hope it keeps up. Mom and I attended a 50th wedding anniversary celebration today. Since we will be married for 45 years this Sep. 26th, I thought it probably would be a good idea for me to start thinking about attending my own 50th anniversary celebration. Hey, wouldn't that be great!

To wrap up, I am scheduled to receive treatment #8 on Monday, Mar. 9th. And a week later, I am scheduled to get my third scan. I am hopeful!

Let's continue to pray for Gerald, Louise, Bruce and others mentioned in previous posts.

Chemo treatment #4 and scan results

2009-01-23T23:25:00.000-06:00

At long last, the news we had been anxiously awaiting finally arrived. Dad got the results of his CT scan yesterday. As explained below, these results reflect the progress made after three chemotherapy treatments. Dad sent the following letter to me yesterday:

As I write this, it’s a few minutes before midnight, January 22. Mom has retired for the night. It has been an exciting day.

I sit here wondering what to write. It’s not that I don’t have anything to say. It’s more a matter of deciding what to leave out. So many exciting things have been happening; it’s hard to keep track of them all.

Why not start with some exciting news first. As you know, I had my second scan on January 12. The first scan was way back in November, to establish a baseline for future comparisons. This second scan occurred after only three chemo sessions. I consider this to be significant, because one would have expected it to be done after the first round of four treatments had finished. I even tried to correct what appeared to be a scheduling error, (see the January 8 blog post), but to no avail. My fourth treatment started on Jan 13th, the day after the scan.

I knew we were not going to get results the same day, but having to wait till January 22 was difficult. As the days went by, I became more and more reluctant to find out what the results were, and by Wednesday, I was not too sure that I really wanted to know. Not that learning about them would change them; I was just not sure whether I would be able to handle any bad news. I was seriously ready to hear some good news, but it could go either way. I do everything to maintain a very positive outlook and to stand on the promises of healing in the Bible, but I also understand the realities related to cancer, and I am not immune to fear.

Jesus tells us: John 14: 27 “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

That’s a tough assignment at times. I was really beginning to wonder why God was letting me wait so long, especially in light of the fact that when Jesus performed miracles, they were always immediate.

I thought about that a lot, especially after listening to Pastor Henry Reyenga’s sermon about Jesus’ first miracle. The water was turned into wine right there and then. And in later healing miracles, Jesus would give the patients a little speech, forgive their sins and then tell them to pick up their stretcher and start walking. There may be, but I can’t think of a single instance where people had to wait for months to get healed after they made contact with Jesus.

As I was listening to the Gaither Vocal Band singing the song “I will wear a crown”, I literally burst out in tears. I had a good cry that morning, which helped a lot to deal with all the emotions. Happily, by the time I sat in the doctor’s consultation room this morning, I was over my jitters and ready to face the situation head on.

First the doctor’s assistant came in to take notes on my reaction to treatment #4. The side effects were very much like the ones in the earlier three treatments, rather minor. However, they seemed to last a day or two longer this time, which was partially the reason why I felt so down on Wednesday, the day before getting the scan results.

My blood work (in preparation for treatment #5) was already done earlier this morning and the doctor’s assistant reported that they were very pleased with the numbers, so the next treatment is slated to go ahead as scheduled for January 26. After she left, medical student Peter K. came by to more or less ask similar questions and to perform a physical exam. He appeared to be pleased and disappeared as well. Finally, Dr. Czaykowski came by to finish up the exam and to provide the scan results.

You got to understand that between the visits of each of these people there usually is considerable waiting time involved, which does not help a lot to dispel any negative thoughts you may encounter.

Doctor Czaykowski seemed very upbeat and said he was pleased with the way the treatments were going and that they would continue as planned. By now, I wanted to know the scan results and so I asked him about them.

He cheerfully told us that the results were very good and he showed me the scan report prepared by a Dr. Henderson. This doctor’s impression was that “there has been a significant improvement with respect to the metastasis”. The scan report states the change in size of the various lesions in the liver and the pancreas and Dr. Czaykowski explained that, in terms of a 3-dimensional view, it means the improvement amounts to about a 50% reduction from their original size.

This was VERY good news indeed for all around. Knowing that the doctors are usually very conservative in what they tell you, I knew that they didn’t use the words “significant improvement” lightly. I was very happy for myself, for Pat and my kids and, indeed, for the doctors as well. It is very encouraging for them also to know that their efforts are paying off.

Pat and I looked at each other and silently understood that this was indeed a positive sign from God. Thank You Jesus. Glory be to God. PTL.

And a BIG thank-you for all of you who have prayed long and hard and continue to do so. Thank You! This has given us all a boost to carry on with renewed courage and hope.

Above all, let’s not forget about Gerald. He too needs serious help. Let’s ask God to give Gerald an extra special measure of healing grace!!! Do it now!

Can you imagine the joy we feel upon receiving this great news? Tears of joy flowed for the first time in quite a while, and our hearts swelled with gratitude for answered prayer. Thank you Jesus.

Chemo treatment #4 postponed

2009-01-08T22:50:00.000-06:00

Dad recently sent me the following update on the status of his 4th treatment. There is so much I could and would like to say in response to, and in support of, what he writes further below, but I'll leave that for another post. Here's the latest:

Just to let you know that my 4th chemo treatment had been postponed to next Tuesday (Jan 13/09) because my white blood count was too low. I was a bit surprised by that, and then again, perhaps not because I managed to get a cold first and then some form of stomach flu that has made me very uncomfortable.(It still gives me lots of exercise running to the bathroom).

Next week Monday, I'll get my scan. Initially, CCMB had scheduled it for Dec 30, after only the 3rd treatment. That appeared to be an error, so they moved it to Jan 12. As it is now, I still end up getting it after the 3rd treatment.

Otherwise, not much to report. Earthly life is very precious and generally we like to hang on to it for as long as we can, both for ourselves and for those who are dear to us. I keep reminding the Lord about His healing promises for His children, which He has scattered all over the Bible! Many people choose to end their prayers for healing with: "If it is Thy will." But I don't like doing that. It introduces an element of doubt into the prayer. James tells us to pray the prayer of faith. Doubt and faith cannot co-exist together.

We already know that it is God's will to heal people. Read both John 5:19 and Matthew 8:17 to verify that Jesus only did what He saw His Father do and He healed in order to fulfill the Scriptures.

There are many non-negotiable statements Jesus made about asking for something. Here are just a few:

MT 21:22 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.

MK 11:24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

JN 14:10-14 Don't you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you are not just my own. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work. 11. Believe me when I say that I am in the Father and the Father is in me; or at least believe on the evidence of the miracles themselves. 12. I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. 13. And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Son may bring glory to the Father. 14. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.

The key is in Mark 11:24. You must believe that you already have received it. In my case it means to see myself in possession of good health. Even if it has not manifested itself yet. Even if the scan shows unwanted results. It will come in time. It may come instantaneous or it may take longer. It really does not matter. I have surrendered my body totally to God. It is His temple when inhabited by the Holy Spirit and I am content with His decision on what to do with it.

This universal principle of "believing you already have received" is even recognized by secular sources. Napoleon Hill writes in his book "Think and grow rich" (which is about accumulating riches of any kind really) in the chapter on Autosuggestion: "I believe that I will have this [insert your core desire] in my possession. My faith is so strong that I can see this [insert your core desire] before my eyes. I can touch it with my hands. It is now awaiting transfer to me...." In his chapter on Faith, he writes: "If you wish evidence on the power of faith, study the achievements of men and women who have employed it. At the head of this list comes the Nazarene. The basis of Christianity is faith, no matter how many people may have perverted, or misinterpreted this great force."

After I had read "Think and grow rich" many years ago, I slowly began to realize that the Bible expounds the same principles, but in much superior form. I began to see how the Bible is the most "positive thinking" book in the world. It is sad to see that humanity continues to ignore this source of life and forgiveness and happiness to its eternal detriment. So, let's be bold and spread the Good News seed around in great handfuls.

Jesus said: ".....My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life." John 10:10 (NLT)

No Bull!

2009-01-08T22:08:00.000-06:00

Thanks to Ingrid Taylor for making the afghan and hat for Dad. That is quite a gift in terms of time and effort. The afghan has already been used many times by Dad to keep cozy. Thanks Ingrid!

Chemo treatment #3

2009-01-03T17:03:00.000-06:00

Here we are into another new year already, can you believe it?! This post is a bit late in coming because in addition to festivities and flights, several in our clan (myself included) have been hit with the flu. Dad sent me the following update several days ago:

As I write this (Sunday after Christmas), it is already Day #7 into the latest chemo session. With Christmas and the arrival of some of our children and grandchildren from BC, it was hard to get going on this post. After today, I will be feeling considerably better. We stayed home Christmas Day (it was wonderful) and went to visit Ed and Rita to eat Christmas dinner on Boxing Day. What a meal! Thanks guys!

It took less time to administer the chemo in this latest session, but it took still till mid-afternoon because CCMB had a full day scheduled for me last Monday. First, there was blood work to be done early in the day, then a review/physical exam with the doctor after that and finally the chemo treatment itself. Julia accompanied me this time. I think it was hard for her to see all the patients there in the various treatment rooms. It’s a tough place to visit.

The side effects are very similar to the ones mentioned in the previous posts, that is, relatively minor with a very runny nose and some discomfort in places where the chemo is working in the different parts of the body. They are more like nuisances, but I managed to pick up a head cold so this just adds to the general misery of the symptoms. Pat has already suffered from a bad cold for a few weeks. It’s a stubborn strain apparently.

The symptoms began clearing up a bit by late afternoon today. You have to make hay while the sun shines, the saying goes, and so first Max and I went to work. Max took a series of pictures of me wearing different hats from my growing collection. Even though we are dealing with a serious matter, we have to stay positive and have some fun as well.

I also met 2 new patients. There was Bruce, who has already been dealing with cancer for a bunch of years. I also met Joshua, a Hutterite man. We were able to talk a bit and he gave me his address, so I can send him some of my healing scriptures which I have compiled. I think I want to visit him instead at the colony as soon as possible. I met some others as well, but I didn’t get their names. I gave each a little scripture booklet as a Christmas gift. All these people go through considerable mental and spiritual turmoil, I suspect. I pray they all will experience the assurance of salvation and healing as stated in many locations in the Bible. What an awesome God!

Finally, tomorrow is Day #8 and I hope to be able to catch up on my work again.

According to Guinness World Records, Nick Vermeulen of the Netherlands holds the record for the largest collection of airline sick bags (ugh) in the world. How many does he have?

Look for the sequence of individual numbers in the post, and you’ll find out. If you think you have the answer, leave me a comment.

KenM

Dad's new 'do

2008-12-21T14:38:00.001-06:00

It's been a while since I posted and thought it might be pertinent to give an update on the latest development in Dad's treatment - his new look!

Starting in his third week of chemotherapy, Dad began to notice that hair was being lost here and there. Dad was disappointed to lose his hair since contrary to popular belief, not every person who undergoes chemotherapy necessarily does. However, since he obviously was losing his, he decided to take it off all at once.

For all Mom's experience with haircutting, I don't think she's ever done a cut like this. I don't think she could prepare for this one anyway, and as you can see from the photos, Mom was moved to tears as she worked. Jacco showed up just in time to finish the job, military style.

I have the pleasure of sitting across the room from Dad right now as he rests on the couch. He has been feeling quite well, and even just returned from a cold weather walk around the neighbourhood with Jacco. Aside from periodic dips in his energy, the absence of more severe side effects from chemotherapy has been an unexpected and welcome blessing.

As for his new look, our dear friend Herman Zwiers says he looks better than ever! We couldn't agree more :)

Chemo treatment - #2

2008-12-10T01:23:00.000-06:00

Dad sent me an update on his latest round of chemotherapy this evening. It's chock full of Goodness and reads as follows:

Here's a quick update on Chemo #2. It's quick, because it took less time today. The nurse explained to me that they always go a bit slower during the first treatment in order to assess how the patient reacts.

I had very few and minor side effects from the first treatment. The doctor seemed very pleased during our review meeting last Thursday. Today's first bag took only 60 minutes, instead of 90. The second bag and a third bag combined took still two hours. After that I received a single dose of 5FU and then my fannypack to take care of till this Thursday, also containing 5FU. This chemo gets pumped in via a low dose during a 46 hour period.

I feel very blessed to have so few side effects (some vision problems as a result of the steroids, runny nose and some loss of energy for a few days), and I feel even more blessed to have a ravenous appetite. Further, I am very blessed to have such an outstanding team of cancer specialists, both doctors and nurses. These people are top professionals. They are low on promises but otherwise communicate easily. That's a real plus, because one tends to have a lot of questions when life takes a very sudden and unexpected U-turn. And, oh how awesome it is to know God is there to listen and talk to.

I'm also grateful for the volunteers, especially the people bringing around the coffee and cookies during treatments. I really feel pampered when they come around.

It took 4 hours in total this time. If my body reacts well during this second treatment, it will take even less time the next time around. Not that I am really fixated on the time it takes. It really matters little to me personally, but mom also has to sit around and wait. This illness does not only affect me, but also many around me, both directly and indirectly. In some way I regret that, but I am unable to change it.

I also met some new patients today. I met Ken, who has been a cancer survivor already for an incredible 16 years. Please pray for Ken (read 1 Tim. 2:1-6 for direction). I also met Tom, who has stage 4 like me. His story of diagnosis is very similar to mine. He, however, is unable to eat, except for some chicken soup without the noodles. Even cookies from volunteers are beyond his reach right now. He suffers considerably from this inability to enjoy food. I know how important it is to be able to eat in order to gain weight and maintain strength, particularly during chemo treatments. For all who read this, please put Tom and Ken on your prayer list and for Tom specifically, pray that God will grant him the ability to once again be able to get food down. I also received an email from Tyson, the young man I met during chemo#1. He was happy to report that he had received some good news after his treatment. PTL. Keep this 19 year-old in your prayers as well.

And, I thank all of you who pray for me and Pat during these times of trial. I visualize a good outcome. I have somehow confidence in this. Although I don't presume to tell God what the outcome should be, I do vigorously claim the promises with respect to healing which are stated in plain B&W (and sometimes in red) in the Bible. I deny the inevitability of a 'negative' outcome, although I do not deny its possibility. But who is to say what is 'negative'. Read 2 Cor. 5:1-10 for a very different view of what we may consider to be a negative outcome.

I finished The End Of Religion. I recommend it heartily to everyone. It's an eye opener. I am currently reading "Creating Miracles - Understanding the Experience of Divine Intervention" by Carolyn Miller, Ph.D. - a very interesting book. I am reading it in conjunction with "The Healing Light - The Art and Method of Spiritual Healing" by Agnes Sanford. I also read intermittantly "Healing The Sick" by T.L Osborne. It is light reading but heavy on God's promises in the Bible pertaining to sick people. I take it in small, digestible doses. And finally, I read my trusted daily devotional "Prescription for a Miracle: 366 Bible messages for divine health" by Mark Brazee.

I feel so blessed to have these books in my possession. I have a box full of them. I seriously believe that I was led to accumulate them. I more than once received this insistent message: "Go to Value Village or the BFM store to get a book". Invariably, I would look through a lot of books to find something of interest. When I finally found it, often as a last attempt, I KNEW I got what I had come for. Each time I found the book, it gave me deep satisfaction as if I had somehow rescued it. Getting it at a bargain price just added to the fun.

This looking for 'healing' books began very soon after the Lord caused this conviction in me (after attending Alpha) to drop my "trunk full of sins" at the foot of the cross and fully accept Jesus as my Lord and Saviour. From there on in, I was able to walk on as a forgiven and free man! What an incredible gift.

That's about it for now. I'll keep you updated on the Chemo#2 effects in the coming days.

Dad's First Chemotherapy Treatment

2008-11-27T09:34:00.000-06:00

Like the rest of us, some of you may have been wondering how Dad's first treatment went yesterday. I waited as long as I could before calling....in case Mom and Dad were dealing with any side effects. I was relieved, surprised in fact, when Dad answered the phone. He was feeling fine, and thankfully had not felt any nausea thus far. Dad sent me the details in an email, so I'll let him fill you in in his own words:

Here's the dope (haha) for today.

Chemo treatments will be administered over an 8 week period, at bi-weekly intervals. After that, a re-assessment of the effectiveness will be performed by the cancer doctors. As I write this, I have not had any noticeable side effects, however they may well start a bit later. Let's hope for the best.
We arrived at the CCMB at 12:30. We left CCMB at 18:20, so we were there about 6 hours for the treatments to take place.
It was much longer than we had expected, but I didn't have anywhere else to go and the iPod was just wonderful to have during this time. Mom mostly read a book and a mag during this time.

I did not have any severe adverse reactions, although I thought to notice that my eyesight was a bit 'whoozy' by 17:00 hrs. It felt like I was trying on a new pair of glasses, with the prescription for the lenses having been changed. The nurse did not appear to be familiar with this apparent effect.

After these drugs, I received a 'fannypack' with a pump and a dose of 5FU. That's about it for today's experiences. One certainly need not go to far away places to have 'new experiences'.

I also met some other cancer patients; Wolfgang, Warren and Tyson. Tyson was especially somebody who I really had sympathy for. He is a young lad of 19 years old, and has a tumour the size of a fist right below his breastbone. He left CCMB just before I did, so I called him over and asked for his name and condition. I then took his hand and told him I will especially pray for him. He nodded and his dad thanked me. I hope I placed a small seed for some alternate source of help. The Lord willing, I will have an opportunity to see him again (get a chair next to him) so we can talk a bit.

And, lastly but not least, we received a working garage door opener, installed by Darryl Westervelt. Thank You Darryl, for a job well done. Mom is absolutely thrilled.

And we're thrilled you're feeling well Dad. I can just see Mom finding reasons to zip to WalMart...so she can use her new opener. Thanks Darryl!

The results are in

2008-11-20T21:21:00.000-06:00

Hello again,

Sadly, the results of today's CT scan are not what we were hoping for. Mom and Dad were told that the scan showed that Dad also has three lesions on his lungs, in addition to the places we already knew about. Mom and Dad pointed out that the results do not necessarily mean that the cancer has spread further, only that the spots on the lungs may not have been noticed on the last scan. The prognosis has not changed, for better or for worse.

On the upside, a new drug that had not been approved for use in Manitoba until recently will be available to Dad during his treatment. Chemotherapy will target and can significantly diminish all the remaining cancer cells. Of course, we'll continue hoping and praying for the best.

Dad's chemotherapy begins Monday with an 8:15 appointment to insert the PICC line (peripherally inserted central catheter). He will return to the clinic on Wednesday, and then again on Friday, for his actual treatment. Mom and Dad are strong, and continue to look to God for comfort and hope. Please keep them in your prayers.

I've always had faith. Trusting God with my life has been a whole other ballgame. And now, trusting God with my Dad's life in the face of cancer is an entirely new challenge and a sharp learning curve indeed. These days, I'm often moved to tears by the songs I hear on the Christian radio station (which can make for some pretty tricky driving). One in particular that has spoken to me is by Steven Curtis Chapman, called Yours. The Chapman family experienced an unimaginable loss when their five year old daughter was killed in a tragic accident. In spite of his grief, and having asked all the questions, Steven still sings these words:

And its all Yours, God, Yours, God
Everything is Yours
From the stars in the sky
To the depths of the ocean floor
And its all Yours, God, Yours, God
Everything is Yours
All the greatness and power, the glory and splendor and majesty
Everything is Yours
Yeah, it's all Yours
We are Yours
The glory and honor is Yours, everything is Yours

It's all Yours, God
My life is Yours, my heart is Yours
My hands and my feet are Yours
Every song that I sing
It's all Yours, all is Yours
All belongs to You
Our gifts are Yours, God
All our dreams are Yours, God
All our plans are Yours, God
The whole earth is Yours, God
Everything is Yours

We are comforted by remembering that in everything and at all times, God is good. And in everything we give Him the glory.

Praying For A Miracle

2008-11-19T01:58:00.000-06:00

Hello again, and welcome to the weblog (blog) of Ken Medgyes! Like many of you, our family has been following Gerald Folkerts’ blog, and we’ve agreed that it is a great way to keep friends and extended family (with whom we are not able to keep in touch with as frequently as we might like) updated on the progress of Dad’s treatment. So without further ado…

Mom and Dad have been doing quite well these last weeks since returning to Winnipeg from Victoria. Aside from a parking ticket (!) they got during Dad’s first visit to the cancer clinic, things have been going smoothly despite the fact that their return home meant Mom & Dad would be facing a ‘new normal’. For those who have ever experienced a serious illness, it is probably safe to say that it is often accompanied by a sharp learning curve. Medical terminology and new diets or regimens, all added to the already daunting task of learning how to live your ‘old’ life with new limitations. (And who could know how long your first visit to the cancer clinic would take? Thankfully, the ticket was taken care of). Regardless, Dad has been hard at work since the earliest days back at home. He’s picked up where he left off as Treasurer for the Transcona Christian Reformed Church and continues his accounting work for the Vaags family at The Carver’s Knife.

Dad’s determination to continue his work is impressive, but his attitude since the diagnosis has been nothing short of amazing. He has remained overwhelmingly positive and strong in his faith and has displayed great courage and character. I’m prouder than ever of my Dad – can you tell?!

Doctors and nurses at the clinic have agreed that a positive attitude, faith, and laughter are as good a medicine as there is. So while Dad’s got the first two covered, don’t forget to add Dad to the list when you’re forwarding something really funny!

Over these past several weeks, Mom and Dad have been blessed by the kindness, support, and fellowship of many. Thank you to those who brought a meal or sent cards and letters, and for all of your prayers. Dad has really enjoyed some visits late into the evening where he experienced the blessing that true fellowship and friendship brings. We thank you all for the ways you have expressed your love and support for Mom & Dad.

Now onto the medical terminology. Dad’s recent visit with the surgeon did not result in the best possible news. While we were hoping that the doctor would find it feasible to operate on the remaining cancer on the liver, instead Mom and Dad were told that the cancer (and the tumour specifically) had invaded the pancreas as well. While different in nature from and therefore not ‘pancreatic cancer’, this spread to the pancreas led the doctor to decide that additional surgery would not be possible. Mom and Dad asked if the act of removing the tumour itself could have released cancerous cells into the surrounding tissues and the surgeon confirmed that it was possible, if not likely. However, the good news is that the chemotherapy for which Dad is scheduled to begin next week can and should reduce those cells as well as the cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes. But first there is the CT scan.

Tomorrow at 6 AM (or today, by the time you read this) Dad is scheduled for a CT scan – the results of which we can only hope and pray will be miraculous. Dad and the rest of us have been praying and believing for healing, and I’m not sure how any of us can expect to react to the results when they come in. Please pray for Dad and our family that whatever the results, God’s peace and mercy will be upon him and the rest of us throughout this journey.

With deep appreciation,
The Medgyes Family

Keeping up with the updates

2008-10-29T23:30:00.000-05:00

It has been a while since I’ve written and I’ve had some requests for another update on Dad.

Many of you already know that Mom and Dad returned home to Winnipeg last Wednesday, October 22. We were glad that Dad was given the OK to fly home but of course, were very sad to see them both go. Mom and Dad also had mixed feelings, but were eager to get home and also to see dear friends and family in Winnipeg again. I know Mom was blessed to be back at church this past Sunday and Dad has received several meaningful visits this past week. Thanks to everyone offering their love and support – everyone has been “so awesome,” says Mom - now that we in BC are somewhat limited.

I can tell you that the last couple weeks that Mom and Dad were here in Victoria were truly wonderful. Dad did a lot of praying and meditating and many truths and insights were revealed to him in those weeks of healing. I believe Dad compared that time to fast-tracking through “God’s university” – and we the family who spent time with him were blessed by the things he shared with us. That’s what is so ironic. Dad’s brothers and sisters, as well as other friends and relatives, came to visit him in order to express their support and offer words of encouragement. I’m not sure if anyone expected that Dad would minister to us in return, but he sure did.

We had some fun too - I’ve attached a couple of pictures of Dad having made it downstairs to participate in a family “jam session”. I’ll bet you didn’t know Dad played the bongos....

On the day Dad left, he was energetic and said he felt better than he had in two years. Dad was looking very healthy and remains in good spirits. He has made contact with the cancer clinic in Winnipeg where he will receive chemotherapy, and is waiting to hear back from them. Dad has returned to doing some work at home for the church, and is also enjoying reading and listening to his new iPod. Please continue to keep Mom and Dad in your prayers. While God has been exceedingly faithful so far on this journey, it’s only just begun.

With love and appreciation,
The Medgyes family

Home from the hospital

2008-10-09T23:23:00.000-05:00

Hello again friends and family,

It is with joy and thanks that we report that Dad has been released from the hospital and is gaining strength every day!

Shortly after the last update we sent, Dad was able to start drinking fluids again and returned home (to Suzie’s house in Victoria) the following day. Yesterday Dad was able to join everyone at the kitchen table for a while and is generally feeling much better. We thank you for your prayers and give the glory to God for providing Dad with everything he needed to make such strides in his recovery.

For now, the doctor requested that Dad stay in Victoria until around the 22nd of October, after which time Mom and Dad will return home to Winnipeg. At that time, Dad will begin chemotherapy to treat the cancer that remains on his liver as well as in the lymph nodes.

It is such a blessing to have family and friends around at this time and we have all been supported by your phonecalls, emails, visits and most importantly, your prayers. Please keep Mom and Dad in your prayers as they still have much to go through with Dad’s treatment in the coming months.

With love and thanks,
The Medgyes Family

Better Days Ahead

2008-10-05T23:21:00.000-05:00

Hello again dear friends and family,

Just a quick note to update you on our Dad and to say thank you again for the many comforting words and for your prayers. Thanks also to those who have offered their assistance regarding Dad’s duties as church treasurer. As I sat with Dad tonight and discussed some administrative tasks that need to be cared for, you suddenly appreciate how a diagnosis of cancer turns not only one, but many worlds upside down.

None more so than Dad’s own of course - to begin with, Dad has not eaten or drank anything since last Wednesday and expressed tonight that hunger was the ONLY thing he was feeling. As the surgical wound heals and gas begins to pass through the colon again, Dad will be restarted on fluids first and then onto solid foods again. Pray for gas (!) so that Dad can eat again.

Earlier today Dad wrestled spiritually and emotionally as the full weight of the recent days settled in heavily upon him. Despite his knowledge that God works His purposes out of all situations, in no way does Dad believe that this cancer was given to him BY God. We are reminded that while we are human and therefore subject to human frailties, we also wage an unseen battle in the spiritual realm. We ask for your prayers not only for Dad’s physical healing but also for sustained strength – and victory – in the realm of the soul.

A note of thanks that Suzie and Mark returned home safely from Europe today and were able to visit Dad in the hospital for a little while. Mom is hanging in there but will benefit from the added support. Mom and Dad will stay in Victoria until mid-October at least, as Dad focuses his strength on getting up and out of the hospital and “back into his blue jeans”. We’ll keep you posted.

Love and thanks,
The Medgyes Family

Surgery Update

2008-10-03T23:19:00.000-05:00

Dear Friends and Family,

First of all, thank you so much for all your well wishes, prayers and messages of encouragement.

Mom and I were able to speak with the surgeon last night and he assured us that the surgery had gone as good as hoped. Dad was back in his room around 6PM B.C. time and was doing very well. Despite the obvious discomfort from the surgery itself, Dad noticed a definite absence of pain in the area where the tumour was removed from.

The surgeon removed half of the right side of Dad’s colon and as much of the cancer as possible from the surrounding tissues. Thankfully, Dad will not need a colostomy (bag) and his digestive functions should return to normal as the wound heals. However, there were still multiple lesions or spots on the liver that will need to be treated with chemotherapy.

The surgeon also discovered that Dad had developed a micro-perforation or small tear in his bowel which could definitely account for the increased pain and discomfort in recent days. As Rita noted, we can also be thankful that they were able to operate as quickly as they did since the leakage from the bowel into the surrounding tissues could have led to sepsis, which could be fatal.

While the doctor was positive about the surgery and the necessity of removing the tumour itself to prevent further systemic problems, he also reminded us that this was indeed Stage 4 cancer and that the success of the surgery and even the chemo to follow does not constitute a “cure“. Mom, Dad and I talked about staying in Victoria or returning to Winnipeg to complete chemotherapy and Dad mentioned that there was also a third option – miraculous healing! Of course we will continue to pray and seek full recovery for Dad but know that God is faithful and loving whether He chooses to calm the storm or walk us through it.

Many people have expressed their desire to send cards and can do so at our address:

712 Demel Place
Victoria, B.C.
V9C 3L6

With love and thanks,
The Medgyes Family

Your Prayers Requested

2008-10-02T23:14:00.000-05:00

As some of you may already know, Dad was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer yesterday and is, as I write this, undergoing surgery at Victoria General Hospital (in Victoria, B.C.) to remove a fist-sized tumour on and around his colon and liver. We apologize to those of you just learning of this by email, but we wanted to get the word out as soon as possible and of course, ask for your prayers.

Dad has been feeling unwell for quite some time now and had even undergone several tests over the last year but until yesterday, nothing had been found. He has been experiencing pain in his right abdominal area for several weeks, particularly when standing and breathing deeply. Two days ago, the pain became sufficient enough that Dad asked to be dropped off at Emergency to have things checked out. Although he was initially sent home with pain medication as doctors could find nothing, he returned two more times that night before having a third doctor order a CT scan.

You can imagine we were all shocked and devestated to learn that not only did Dad have a large tumour, but that it had also invaded the colon and liver making removal today a very serious matter. While doctors hope to remove as much as possible, it is believed that they will also do chemotherapy to target some spots that can’t be reached surgically.

Despite the grim diagnosis and equally poor prognosis – doctor’s are quoted as saying “it doesn’t look good”… - Dad has been in relatively good spirits and remains hopeful and secure in his faith. He asks for your prayers and has expressed that he still has more to do in the way of work for the church and “maybe even another group [like Alpha]”. Let’s hope and pray for God’s healing touch and for a miracle.

Mom is doing okay but is physically and emotionally exhausted and has taken a few minutes to lie down and get some needed rest. We request and thank you for your prayers and support and will update you as we learn more. Mom and Dad were scheduled to return home to Winnipeg on October 8th, but it appears as though that return may be delayed. Again, we will let you know more as we learn it.

You can reach Mom via Suzie and Mark’s number at 250.474.1216 or via myself and Jacco’s number at 250.590.6550. Mom also has been carrying Sue’s cell which is 250.886.7658 but won’t have it on while in the hospital. Please feel free to forward this email as you see fit. Thanks for your prayer and support.

Love and blessings,
The Medgyes Family